Prior to this PR, remote downloads which did not provide a
`content-length` were decremented from the remote download ratelimiter
at the max allowable size, leading to excessive ratelimiting - see
https://github.com/element-hq/synapse/issues/17394.
This PR adds a linearizer to limit concurrent remote downloads to 6 per
IP address, and decrements remote downloads without a `content-length`
from the ratelimiter *after* the download is complete and the response
length is known.
Also adds logic to ensure that responses with a known length respect the
`max_download_size`.
